The causes of anger rarely hurt us as much as the consequences of anger
Dec16

The causes of anger rarely hurt us as much as the consequences of anger

Suppose someone insults us. Feeling angry, we lash out at them. They feel hurt and react defensively or aggressively, doing…

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To be compassionate, be both caring and careful
Dec01

To be compassionate, be both caring and careful

Suppose a doctor is asked to travel to an epidemic zone to treat patients. To take up such an assignment, they would need to…

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Don’t use others to feel better about yourself, learn from others how to become better
Nov29

Don’t use others to feel better about yourself, learn from others how to become better

When we are distressed, we often need someone to unburden ourselves to. While that is an understandable and even essential…

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Self-pity makes feel-bad seem feel-good
Nov26

Self-pity makes feel-bad seem feel-good

Suppose we are in physical pain. We will naturally do whatever we can to free ourselves from that pain as soon as possible.…

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If we justify our weaknesses by comparing ourselves with those who are weaker, we weaken our motivation to rectify ourselves
Nov16

If we justify our weaknesses by comparing ourselves with those who are weaker, we weaken our motivation to rectify ourselves

Suppose we have a weakness, say, a short temper. Driven by anger, we may speak and do things that we know we shouldn’t. Indeed,…

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Even if we are feeling miserable, that doesn’t give us the right to make others miserable Gita 17.16
Nov14

Even if we are feeling miserable, that doesn’t give us the right to make others miserable Gita 17.16

When something goes wrong in our lives, we may feel hurt, irritated, dejected. If we give in to bouts of self-pity and start…

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