Seek the association that warns us about our urges, not warms us to our urges

Suppose we meet a stranger belonging to a group that’s hostile to us. Naturally, there would be some coldness between us and them. But if someone we trust praised that stranger, that would break the ice and bring some warmth into that meeting. However, if that stranger were still hostile to us, then the warmth would mean we would be in bigger danger.

Suppose, however, that the hostile person is not a stranger, but is someone familiar to us. Then if someone further warmed us to them, we would be in even greater danger.

Similar is our plight when we deal with our urges. Most of our urges are familiar to us, for we have indulged in them repeatedly. Though such indulgence is often unfulfilling and sometimes degrading, we somehow remain favorably inclined toward our urges whenever they arise within us. Why do we remain favorable to urges which lead to unfavorable results?

Because of our association. The Bhagavad-gita (02.62) indicates that our desires are shaped by our association.

In today’s materialistic culture, we are surrounded by association that warms us to our urges. Even if our past negative experience with indulgence creates some reservation within us toward our urges, that reservation is dissipated by the incessant glamorization of those urges by the people around us. Misled by those depictions, we lower our guard and relapse.

To protect ourselves from our urges, we need to conscientiously seek the association that warns us about our urges. We can find such association among those who learn and live the Gita. Thereby, we are reminded not just about the folly of sensual indulgence, but also the glory of spiritual realization.

By such reminders, we get the inspiration and conviction to stop pandering to our urges and to start transcending them.

Think it over:

  • What’s wrong with indulging in our urges?
  • Despite the unfavorable results of sensual indulgence, why do we remain favorable to our urges?
  • Whose association can protect us from our urges? How?


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  1. Hare Krishna Prabhu ji
    This article is really very helpful for me

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