We don’t have to outweigh our urges; we just have to out-wait them

Suppose a big bully is trying to barge into our house to abuse and rob us. They are yelling at us to open the door, banging on the door and kicking and hitting the door. Suppose further that the door has a loose bolt that we need to physically hold in place to keep the door closed. If we let go of the bolt, the blows of the bully from outside will cause the bolt to slide open, letting the bully break in.

Suppose that the door is too strong to be broken by the bully. If we just hold the bolt in place, they will eventually become bruised and exhausted and will be forced to give up and go away. To persevere despite the bully’s intimidation, we need to remind ourselves that our confrontation with them is a test not of power, but of patience. We don’t have to be stronger than them; we just have to wait longer than them.

Our lower urges are like such a bully that we need to outwait, not outweigh. When they hit us, they can feel so strong as to be utterly overwhelming. But those urges can’t hurt us unless they break into our consciousness. Blocking their entry is the door to our consciousness. The bolt to that door is our intention to pay attention. Whatever thought, idea, desire pops up at the periphery of our consciousness can’t control us unless we give it our attention.

All we need to do is consciously redirect our attention toward something else, something higher, preferably the all-attractive supreme, Krishna. Then, the urge will keep battering at the door of our consciousness – in vain. Pertinently, the Bhagavad-gita (05.23) assures that if we tolerate our urges, our consciousness will gradually become satisfied and spirtualized.


Think it over:

  • How are our urges like a bully?
  • Why can’t our urges break the door to our consciousness?
  • Do you let yourself become intimidated by your urges? How can you outwait them?

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Thinking that thinking is troublesome, is troublesome
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  1. JAPA controls all your URGES

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