Watch yourself as if you are someone you don’t know
Suppose we want to develop a relationship with someone. We will observe them carefully, noting how they behave in various situations and especially in difficult situations. By such observation, we can learn a lot about others.
Intriguingly, we can use the same strategy of careful observation to learn about ourselves. Why would we do that? We know ourselves already, don’t we? Actually, no. We are incredibly complex, having many kinds of desires, emotions and thoughts. And these exist at various levels inside us: some at the surface, some, buried deep within.
We can get a sense of the unknown within us by contemplating how we sometimes surprise ourselves by our good actions and sometimes shock ourselves by our bad actions. Either way, the point remains that we don’t know ourselves well enough. That’s why we can and should use self-observation to increase our self-understanding.
While observing ourselves, we need to ensure that we don’t get so lost in ourselves that we forget the purpose of observing ourselves: self-transformation. The Bhagavad-gita (06.05) recommends purposeful self-observation when it urges us to elevate ourselves with ourselves, not degrade ourselves with ourselves.
When we try to transform ourselves, we often fail. One reason is that we often focus on self-restraint and self-criticism, thereby creating negative feelings such as discouragement, deprivation and resentment. Instead, if we begin our journey of self-transformation by focusing on self-observation, then we will seek to understand how we can transform ourselves.
Suppose we spot someone doing something counter-productive. If we don’t know them well, but still care for them, then we won’t immediately restrain or reproach them; we will seek to find a way to communicate our concern as sensitively and effectively as possible.
When we adopt a similar approach toward ourselves, then self-observation, self-understanding and self-transformation will grow simultaneously, seamlessly, symbiotically.
Think it over:
- Why do we need to observe ourselves?
- How does shifting our focus from self-transformation to self-observation help us?
- For three days, try to look at yourself once every hour. Did you learn anything useful about yourself?
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